I am a pretty easy-going person, I don’t like drama or conflict and I avoid it whenever possible. When something gets under my skin though, it can be really bothersome and I spend a lot of time and energy dwelling on it. Recently, I have found myself in a situation that has really tested my patience and I have been getting back to basics, taking time for myself and trying to look at the situation from all angles to appreciate the different points of view. There are lots of ways that we can create peace of mind, what works for me may not work for others but here are some things I am focusing on in light of recent events:
Read a book, watch a movie, listen to some music, see how many times you can write fuck on a piece of notebook paper (not really). Taking some time to focus on activities that I enjoy rather than what is bothering me helps me to decompress and diffuse irrational thoughts.
It’s science, people and I really do think that exercising makes me feel more clear headed and overall happier.
No matter how strongly you feel that you dislike a person in that moment, find something to appreciate about them. My mom once told me that you can hate how someone is behaving but still love that person, and if you can’t love them then you can like them, a little.
Unplug, get outside and explore.
I spent the first half of my life avoiding arguments by just not expressing my thoughts, this leads to resentment and it is unfair to yourself and the other person. Choose your words, you will feel better that you were honest instead of laying awake at night and rehashing all of the stuff you could have said but didn’t.
I can’t control everything, I can’t control other people but I can control my response and taking the time to be intentional and genuine tends to get me further than just blowing up.
My environment really impacts my state of mind, coming home to a clean apartment is soothing and doesn’t compound my out of order feelings.
When I find myself in a shitty situation, it is easy to daydream about a better future which may never come to fruition. I think it is important to want a better situation for yourself but it can also be counterproductive if you overlook what you already have.
It helps to gain a little perspective by helping someone else who could be experiencing a tougher time than you. Often times we think that our problems are unique to us and nobody will understand but in reality, there are billions of people out there to empathize.
That’s it, let it go. Say it out loud and put it out there to the universe.
I’d love to hear how you create your peace of mind, thanks for stopping by <3