I misplaced my carton of coffee cream yesterday morning so this morning when I went to make my coffee, I of course, assumed that somehow had broken into my apartment and pilfered the creamer because that makes sense. How does one misplace an entire carton of coffee creamer? Glad you asked, I have no idea. I threw my blow dryer in the trash after I was done with it about a week ago and came home and again figured it was probably an intruder. It wasn’t, I am clearly losing my mind. This is it, it’s dementia, I figured this day would be here sooner than later. I found the creamer when I was putting clean dishes away, spoiled, next to the glasses. I can’t wait to see what I misplace next.
I am coming up on 3-months of being newly single and have settled into a relatively pleasant routine. I find myself with a lot of time on my hands now that I only have to worry about what I want to do which isn’t the worst thing in the world. I find each day a little easier and have found some easy ways to manage the transition.
I have found that if I don’t have a tangible schedule that 1) I can start to feel a little mopey if I don’t have plans with someone else and 2) I can spend an entire day just watching Netflix. Weekdays are easy but the on the weekends I get up at the same time, I have a timeline for my chores and everything else fits around that. Having a schedule makes me feel that I am being purposeful with my time even if I am just doing mundane, everyday tasks.
Being single, you can eat where you want, go where you want, pretty much do just what you want to do and that’s exactly what I have been doing. I really enjoy going to the movies alone and find the time to take myself once a week. I don’t recommend the drive through alone though, that was creepy but treat yourself to the things that you enjoy doing whether or not you have someone to go with you.
Something that really bothered at me the start of all of this is that I had shared all of my favourite things with someone who wasn’t around anymore. Finding something new that was exclusive to me was a bit challenging but it’s been nice to have something new that isn’t saturated in old memories.
If I don’t want to do something or go somewhere, then I haven’t been – it seems simple but you have to make your own happiness a priority. My time is very important to me and I have realized that I don’t have to share it with someone else if I don’t want to. I have found a manageable balance between social events and alone time but at first I thought I should throw myself into social events which was exhausting and while distracting, wasn’t making me happy.
Overall, I think it is just a matter of falling in love with your own company and realizing that you are the key to your own happiness.